A Man and A Woman

It's great to have a soulmate but not everyone is that lucky. It's easy to recognise the person we love. In men when they get the person they love they get a drive to survive, earn and make the person they love happy, and in women when they get the person they love they get the drive to care for them. The main deal is two people feeling these respective feelings for each other, otherwise it turns out to be a one sided affair. Women are often ridiculed when they say they expect their man to pluck the stars from the sky for them, when the truth is that when a man actually loves a woman he feels exactly the same, like wanting to pluck the stars from the sky for her. This country is an experimentation in eugenics and only the lucky and the privileged get to have their soulmates. If you are educated and not under the pressure of your family to get arranged into a marriage, your best bet is to marry your best friend, if you have any, in the opposite gender. I have been lucky to have few best friends of opposite gender but I was unlucky enough to actually understand my family too late. In my community and culture, marriage is an alliance between two families and it has nothing to do with the compatibility between two people. I came to realise it way too late, in 2015, when my marriage was arranged. When I came to realise it, I felt sorry for wasting the time of the few women I had been with, but it was an honest mistake. I was never after pussy, but intimacy, which as fate would have it, I never got, as you want your kind of intimacy. A lot of what goes on the world is transaction, you see comments of westerners on social media such as X or Instagram and you realise that for a lot of them (not all) it's a transaction. Men want good pussy and women want the cash. Situation is becoming similar in this country too as the time is passing. I had my preferences for a woman like everyone has for their partner, I would have preferred a woman who was from the field of science and had enough self-respect to not to care about my money. Though these things become small when you find your soulmate. The world shifts in the background when you find your soulmate and no, I'm not talking about the play of hormones and brain chemicals when you are newly infatuated or are in new love. Having a soulmate is a spiritual experience. I have had best friends who are girls whom I could have married to have a fun life, we could've enjoyed together, though that couldn't really happen. The best part of it all is that I found my soulmate, and I indeed consider myself way too lucky that this happened with me. Trust me, if you find your soulmate and are already in a relationship, you would cheat in a heartbeat, but the best part is that you won't feel the need to. People cheat for various reasons, because they realise that they have found the one, because their needs are not being fulfilled by their partner, because they are angry with their partner and want revenge, but the most common reason is that they are immoral and disloyal assholes. The fun part, women cheat as much as men, and a lot of them double down on their men while cheating them but that does not take away the fact the men are far worse in every respect when it comes to a relationship though it's also true that good men get cucked all the time. If you are unlucky in a relationship and have been arranged to a person whom you don't find yourself compatible with, trust me, give it time, the need for common survival will bring your relationship on track given you respect that person at least as a human being. If you have gotten into a relationship, it's now a duty, and you should fulfill that duty. Though it's true that things are effortless when you really love a person. Care for your partner, and know that you are in this shit together. If you have married an asshole then there is not much that can be done except taking it as long as you can take it. It is a real problem and you must deal with it accordingly. Love and sex are two different things and if you don't find your partner sexually attractive, just jack off to internet porn in private, and do not let your partner or the government know about it.