Hopeless Romantique

Society will shame you for being a romantic but there is nothing shameful in being a romantic. Of course it is all transactional in the times of today and romance practically doesn't exist, but if you are a romantic, don't discard your romanticism and keep it within you as an aesthetic quality. It is infinitely hard in today's times to get someone on whom you can project your romanticism and they deserve it, but if you have got that special someone count your blessings. This country deals, other than marriage, in pussy, and the chief methods pussy is obtained are transactions (money or favours), intimidation and deception. The powerful use women as a fleshlight, and it is later I realised that this happens at a deeper level, practically almost the deepest level. I'm a romantic and I stick to romance in my life, if only in the form of poetry now. Marriages are breaking all over the country now, but there is a deeper and more insidious reason other than or even along with, disagreements and incompatibility. Majority in this country are still arranged, and its not a bad thing, but unfortunately the focus now is not on compatibility but the economics side of things. It was different earlier because people used to get married in their early 20s and in case of our grandparent's generation even teenage and child marriages were prevalent and that gave the couple a lot of time to develop compatibility, partnership, companionship love, even if romantic love was absent. Nothing bonds two people together more than than trying to survive together. Expecting romance in a country where women are no more than fleshlights is kind of a tricky situation, but then that's what sells romance novels and romantic comedies. When I was younger I used to write a lot of romantic poetry and a bit of sensuous or erotic poetry only to end up seeing the actual truth of this country, with regards to male female dynamics, that is sexual opportunism. You are lucky if you find sexual compatibility, friendship, companionship and spiritual connection, all in one partner, which given the political state of this country is impossible. What is carrying marriages in this country is plain and simple common survival goals in which you aid each other to survive. Having spiritual connection to someone you love is anyway a far cry in the type of political scenario we live in this country, which you can call having a soulmate, and it is only available to incredibly privileged. What you can do however is find the person you vibe with and eat bhuttas in the rain with him or her. The power dynamic is such that women, except the ones from privileged families are totally helpless, and they get used until they or their family finds someone to settle down with. I, as a man have seen the setup of this country and how hard it is to navigate it so I realise that women except for the privileged ones, stand no chance as the gap in power dynamic advantage between men and women is way too vast to overcome. Politics trumps companionship, and love, even higher forms of romantic love and spiritual connection despite existing, is prisoner to the greater politics that governs our lives. The simple thumb rule is that good people get cucked, whether they are males or females, though even if you do, you can learn to not to make the same mistake again. Having a soulmate matters shit in a world where the powerful use living, breathing women as fleshlights. Though the allure of walking under the streetlights on a rainy winter evening eating icecreams with your beloved never really fades for a person who is truly romantic.